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you have addressed some valid issues and make good points.

I sense that for many people problems build & it gets to be almost a domino effect. There is no where to turn (you believe) that you can find warmth/support.

I come to FR because it "feels good".. It fills a need. If I were truly down / depressed & came here & was shot down I think it would be another addition to camel's back.

did anyone ever commit suicide from flaming? Something we might never know. Many people disappear.. Differing interests, computer death, stroke, etc...

If death, That person may have not died from a flaming but it surely did not help, now did it? It is hard to contain yourself when someone is being a jerk in your opinion (I say you in a sense of all of us, not you personally Cat). Just like humor can be a pretense for depression.. obstinance can also & rebellion.

Sometimes when someone on here irritates me, usually because he's rude to me, I flame back. It's an outlet. In real life you usually have to eat it when someone is publicly rude to you. It feels good to stand up for what you believe. Here, it's "safe" to stand up for yourself.

Or maybe not so safe, if the person didn't mean to offend or couldn't help it for whatever reason, and really takes hurt from being flamed. I've had to apologize more than once for taking something wrong. There's no tone of voice here...no body language to help us interpret words the right way.

Have to say though, that most of the people I've flamed do not seem EVEN sensitive enough to be truly hurt by it...nor bright enough to understand exactly what I mean when I hope they are cautious, lest their mothers run out from under the porch to bite them.

But I could be wrong.

Still, I'm ME, and if I FReep tired or someone gets under my skin, I do what EggsAckley is talking about. I think most of us do. We can't walk on eggshells all the time, wondering if we're going to be the last straw for someone else. :-(

I would hope that a divine prompting would come and stop me from hitting POST below the scathing words that would lethally wound someone to the heart.