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Being the ultimate anti-feminist, I won't react to your sexist question that; a) assumes I bring nothing to the financial equation in my household as the hubby does all the 'work' and; b) what I do is all play and not work. Instead, I will answer your question by saying my husband does work full-time - one of those dot.commers who was able to see the handwriting on the wall, in addition to preparing for a reasonable financial future for his family.

Of course, there are two pieces to that equation that most would never see - or acknowledge. The first is that the primary duties of a wife and mother represent work and added economic value. The second is that I worked full-time for many years prior to the marriage, bringing 90% of the assets to the union.

Having said all that, I accept your indirect compliment that Mr. Gun must be the brains behind the operation, as that leaves me to contribute the beauty!

189 - "I won't react to your sexist question that; a) assumes I bring nothing to the financial equation in my household as the hubby does all the 'work' and; b) what I do is all play and not work."
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Not sexist at all - merely an observation. We still live in a society where sex roles are pretty much defined for us.
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166 - "May explain why I haven't HAD to work for the last decade. I dabble in those things that interest me. "
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I bet your husband doesn't 'dabble' at his job (unless he is very rich and spoiled, which I seriously doubt). Men are still responsible for being the 'bread winners' in our society, even if the women do bring home some 'cake'. Being out of work is a serious blow to a man's self esteme. If your family cannot afford a roof over your head, it is the man who is blamed, not the woman.

I bet you don't 'dabble' at raising your kids. Women are responsible for doing the 'mothering'. If little 'Johnny' comes to school with a dirty face and isn't fed, it's not your husband who is blamed.

It's like the real answer to the question 'Why are most great chef's men?'

The real answer is that men don't 'have to' cook, every day, day in, day out. They can 'dabble' at cooking, or if they really enjoy it and are really good, they can become chefs, because they 'don't have to' do it, every day, 3 meals a day, they have the option not to do it.

So, it sounds to me like youall are lucky, and have a great marriage and are a good match.

Congratulations.