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My posts were not extreme. I said I distrusted anyone outside my family in terms of sleepiing with a child of mine and thought it was iinappropriate for relatives to sleep with children of certain ages. I don't think that is extreme. I think many people hold that view. Especially those of us who raised children prior to the "family bed". It was thought that children needed to learn to be alone at night, that to sleep with them infantilized them and interfered with normal developement. Given the amount of child sexual abuse in this culture I think my position is wise. Your implying that for me to feel this way meant I had some kind of abuse history was insulting and indecent. To think that having a good sense of boundaries with one's children in a protective way means someone has a "history" is sort of strange to me. Michael Jackson says the same thing,,how charmiing it is for children to sleepover at his house. Think about it. Why make it easier for predators to get at one's children. And all predators have families, some have children, many have sisters and brothers and inlaws who do not suspect them. A blanket rule about protecting one's children means you don't have to think about everyone who comes in contact with them and whether that person if safe to allow a sleepover in the same bed,,why allow it at all.