[Orangedog]

But it seems to me they probably didn't forsee that an ex-spouse would jump into the picture and file suit -- that's a hard thing to imagine before it happens, and it messed up their plan.

Who would have been taking care of the kids after the grandparents could no longer be there with them? Would they have been shipped to the other side of the country to be with the grandmother after she had to return home? Speaking as someone who has a kid, if my ex tried to move my kids that far away, I'd file for custody too. However the woman seeking to get custody from the military couple in question must be one step below crack-whore since courts almost never give custody to the father.

[68skylark]

This has certainly generated some strong feelings. I hope the Army gets it resolved quickly. (I think they will -- it's in their interests to get this settled.)