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Fight over woman's feeding tube leaves husband's life in limbo (Terri Schiavo)
Salt Lake Tribune ^ | Nov. 1, 2003 | Abby Goodnough , NYT

Posted on 11/02/2003 9:47:19 AM PST by FairOpinion

CLEARWATER, Fla. -- Michael Schiavo is 6 feet 6 inches, with a scrub-brush mustache and a gold chain bearing the crosses his parents wore. He is a nurse who works the graveyard shift, often pulling into his driveway as his neighbors walk their dogs in the moist Florida dawn. He has a meticulously kept yard, a screened-in pool where his friends sometimes gather, a golden retriever, a girlfriend and a year-old daughter.

"My brother is a normal guy who this tragedy happened to," said Brian Schiavo, one of the four brothers with whom Schiavo shared an unremarkable childhood in Levittown, Pa., near Philadelphia.

But because of the tragedy of Schiavo's wife, Terri, 39, who suffered brain damage when she collapsed one night 13 years ago, Michael Schiavo is also at the center of one of the most debated court cases in the nation. He wants to remove her feeding tube, paving the way for her death against the wishes of her parents and supporters who have rallied to their cause.

For this, Schiavo, 40, has been depicted as a heartless fiend.

As the case has gained prominence in recent months, Schiavo has all but refused to tell his side of the story publicly or answer the charges that his in-laws, and people who have never met him, keep leveling. Through his brother Brian and his lawyer, George Felos, he declined to be interviewed for this article.

But as the latest round in the legal battle over Terri Schiavo's fate begins, her husband's friends and relatives are speaking out. They describe a man driven from his home by death threats, who avoids going out in public but for work and court dates. He will not divorce his wife, marry his new love and get on with life, they say, because of his determination to carry out his wife's wish not to live in a vegetative state.

"He's got ethics and values that most people don't have, much less the strength to adhere to them," said Russ Hyden, a friend who said Michael Schiavo supported him through his wife's death from cancer.

Schiavo was two years out of high school when he met Theresa Marie Schindler in 1982, at Bucks County Community College in Pennsylvania. She had been overweight and frumpy until her senior year of high school, when she started dieting, and Schiavo was her first boyfriend, her family said.

The couple married in 1984, and two years later, decided to move to St. Petersburg, Fla., into a condominium that Terri Schiavo's parents, Bob and Mary Schindler, owned.

When they were not working -- he as a restaurant manager, she as a clerk at Prudential -- they hung out by the pool at their apartment complex or in St. Pete Beach, thick with bars and dance clubs.

While Michael Schiavo's family describes those early years of the marriage as carefree, the Schindlers -- who moved to Florida around the time their daughter did -- say they became dark. Michael Schiavo was a penny pincher who kept track of the mileage on his wife's car and yelled at her for spending money on haircuts, they said.

The Schindlers say that on Feb. 25, 1990, Terri Schiavo told her brother that she and Schiavo had had a violent argument -- a claim Michael Schiavo denies. Michael Schiavo says his wife was asleep when he arrived home from work. In a rare interview on "Larry King Live," he said he awoke at 4:30 a.m. and heard a thud. It was his wife, whom he found on the floor, he said.

By the time paramedics arrived, Schiavo's heart had not pumped for perhaps 10 minutes, doctors found. The prevailing theory is that she had an undiagnosed potassium deficiency, possibly from extreme weight loss or even, her husband has said, bulimia. She had gone from more than 200 pounds in high school to 110 pounds.

The brain damage Schiavo suffered left her able to breathe on her own but not to ingest food or drink. Doctors have said she is in a persistent vegetative state, meaning her eyes are open, but her brain is incapable of emotion, memory or thought.

Brian Schiavo said his brother was determined to rehabilitate his wife.

Michael Schiavo flew his wife to California for treatment, sleeping on a cot beside her bed for a month. He began studying nursing, to take better care of her. He and his wife lived with the Schindlers for a while, and he filed a malpractice suit against Terri Schiavo's doctors for failing to diagnose her health problems. In November 1992, the Schiavos won $1 million in damages: $700,000 for her care, the rest for him.

When the check arrived, the war began. Both sides say that on Valentine's Day, 1993, Michael Schiavo and his father-in-law had an ugly fight in the nursing home where Terri Schiavo was then living. The Schindlers say the fight was about what kind of treatment the money would go toward, with them advocating rigorous therapy and Schiavo wanting only basic care. But Schiavo said it was because Schindler wanted a cut of the settlement.

Schiavo's belief that his wife would recover had evaporated by 1997, his supporters say, when he lost his mother to cancer. But the other side points out that as early as 1993, soon after he won the malpractice money, Michael Schiavo did not want to treat an infection his wife had developed and that he had stopped her rehabilitation even earlier.

Only after his mother's death did Schiavo tell his in-laws that on several occasions, his wife had said she would not want to be kept alive artificially. The timing of the revelation -- after he won the malpractice money and after he began seeing Jodi Centonze, with whom he would eventually have a child -- made the Schindlers deeply suspicious.

For a long time, the Schindlers accused Schiavo of wanting his wife dead so he could spend her settlement money. But Michael Schiavo's lawyer said all but $60,000 has been spent on medical care and legal fees, and that his client would not see a penny of what remains.

Brian Schiavo said his brother felt betrayed by everyone from the Schindlers to the news media to Gov. Jeb Bush, who used a law rushed through the Legislature recently to order Schiavo's feeding tube reinserted. Schiavo has sued to have the law ruled unconstitutional.


TOPICS: Culture/Society; Extended News; News/Current Events
KEYWORDS: crymeariver; itsallaboutmememe; schiavo; selfabsorbed; terri; terrischiavo
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To: sweetliberty
When I see that picture I can't help but see a much more conscious woman than the Terri of today. Languishing in a room for 10 years with little stimulation has obviously had a deleterious effect.
181 posted on 11/02/2003 4:44:37 PM PST by TaxRelief (Welcome to the only website dedicated to the preservation of a Freerepublic.)
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To: TaxRelief
Yes, I agree. It is heartbreaking. Just think how much better she could be had her course of treatment been continued.
182 posted on 11/02/2003 4:48:53 PM PST by sweetliberty ("Having the right to do a thing is not at all the same thing as being right in doing it.")
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To: Conservative Me
or a person's request not to be reliant on machines to live unconciously, but I do not trust this guy as far as I can throw him.

OK, I might not want machines. But I would like for someone to feed and water me if I am on a chain in the backyard.

183 posted on 11/02/2003 4:50:22 PM PST by carenot
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To: FairOpinion
a gold chain bearing the crosses his parents wore.

Methinks he probably melted those crosses down and made himself a piece of jewelry that looks something like this:


184 posted on 11/02/2003 4:56:44 PM PST by Terriergal (Psalm 11: 3 "When the foundations are being destroyed, what can the righteous do?")
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To: Conservative Me
Same here. I can understand the desire to pass on if your breathing and heartbeat are being supported by machine. Food... well that's another thing totally. Withholding food takes weeks to accomplish death and is probably a most painful way to pass on. disconnecting life support will happen in minutes and you'll pass into unconsciousness very quickly, after which death will occur within minutes.

My question is, if this guy is so bent on mercy killing, why doesn't he petition to have it done mercifully?

185 posted on 11/02/2003 5:00:08 PM PST by Terriergal (Psalm 11: 3 "When the foundations are being destroyed, what can the righteous do?")
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To: Terriergal
Looks about right to me.
186 posted on 11/02/2003 5:00:24 PM PST by trussell (PRAYER WORKS!!)
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To: FairOpinion
Why doesn't this guy do everyone as well as himself a favor and divorce Terri. Hand over guardianship to her parents and let him go on his merry way.
187 posted on 11/02/2003 5:01:32 PM PST by Arpege92
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To: carenot; sweetliberty
I realize that is completely irrelevant to the discussion at hand.

No it ain't.

Maybe she did have that problem, especially if she was living with a sicko controller like Michael seems to be. If so, that she *had* it is irrelevant to the discussion at hand. That Michael didn't bring it up *is* relevant though, as you say, carenot.

The cynical side of me thinks that he is using this as some kind of twisted rationalization for his withholding food from her...

188 posted on 11/02/2003 5:03:52 PM PST by Terriergal (Psalm 11: 3 "When the foundations are being destroyed, what can the righteous do?")
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To: PeyersPatches
lol - it's not funny, but...your comment was well-phrased.
189 posted on 11/02/2003 5:04:33 PM PST by Terriergal (Psalm 11: 3 "When the foundations are being destroyed, what can the righteous do?")
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To: Theodore R.
I voted, just for you. ; - )
190 posted on 11/02/2003 5:04:49 PM PST by Auntie Mame (Why not go out on a limb, isn't that where the fruit is?)
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To: Arpege92
Only two possible answers: Terri has something to say that Michael does not want her to say OR Michael does not want to lose half all his assets.
191 posted on 11/02/2003 5:05:29 PM PST by TaxRelief (Welcome to the only website dedicated to the preservation of a Freerepublic.)
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To: sweetliberty
By Felos' definition, being alive is a terminal condition. Well, DUH!

Maybe someone can get a court order to withhold food and hydration from useless attorneys.

192 posted on 11/02/2003 5:06:10 PM PST by Terriergal (Psalm 11: 3 "When the foundations are being destroyed, what can the righteous do?")
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To: Mfkmmof4
Is that Terri for real? If it is then why would he be upset with her parents showing videos of her?

Don't ask silly questions!

But fwiw, the answer is: it might blow michael's cover.

193 posted on 11/02/2003 5:07:08 PM PST by Terriergal (Psalm 11: 3 "When the foundations are being destroyed, what can the righteous do?")
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To: carenot
Some of us do not approve of murder.

Gosh you make it sound so simple. You have to be more sophisticated to make sense of this situation, remember!

:-)

(check the etymology of sophisitcation/sophistry/sophisticated)

194 posted on 11/02/2003 5:11:33 PM PST by Terriergal (Psalm 11: 3 "When the foundations are being destroyed, what can the righteous do?")
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To: lonevoice
During his LKL interview, Schiavo said he'd had to "do the same thing with his parents" as he wants to do to Terri now (starve her to death).

When the only tool you have is a hammer....

We know he had Terri's wedding and engagement rings melted down to make a ring for himself. I didn't know about him wearing his parents' jewelry until I read your article.

See post #184...

195 posted on 11/02/2003 5:13:59 PM PST by Terriergal (Psalm 11: 3 "When the foundations are being destroyed, what can the righteous do?")
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To: carenot
She's wonderful! I can hardly believe my good 'fortune' to have her. She is a most amazing personality. Totally unflappable, loveable, persisitent, sweet... Oh I could go on.

I'll try and get you a more recent pic. I've been lazy about getting them up cuz we're in the process of selling our house. (found one that's perfect, closing on Dec 1, but we have to sell ours yet. Had one buyer back out just yesterday. Bummed out...)

196 posted on 11/02/2003 5:18:16 PM PST by Terriergal (Psalm 11: 3 "When the foundations are being destroyed, what can the righteous do?")
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To: Salvation
How about Terri's life being in limbo for countless years?

She doesn't count. Haven't you noticed?

197 posted on 11/02/2003 5:19:08 PM PST by Terriergal (Psalm 11: 3 "When the foundations are being destroyed, what can the righteous do?")
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To: ClancyJ
You have said it better than any I've read in a long time. I broke my ankle a year ago and was bedridden for a month. After that I was allowed to move with a walker. Mind you at that time of year it was Christmas, and everyone I knew couldn't believe how well I handled my infirmity, saying they would go crazy if it had been them. Well, I tell you, I learned so much from those few months of injury and rehab. Everything is changed to me! And even though I still don't have all of my motion back (most of it is), I can never go back to "living" from my previous point of view. My life HAS changed, but in my opinion, it's gotten better! I now appreciate the small things much more so than I used to. I am not hindered by the things I used to be preoccupied with. What's important has changed. Terri's life to me is so valuable and precious, even if she never got any "healthier". I wish that those who agree with Michael could understand this. Maybe they'd change their minds.
198 posted on 11/02/2003 5:23:28 PM PST by Ohioan from Florida
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To: carenot
Here you go - puppypix for you and anyone else who's interested:


I want some of that!

Snuggling

Relaxing like *such* a lady...

The mighty huntress

Too big to be a lapdog!

199 posted on 11/02/2003 5:37:25 PM PST by Terriergal (Psalm 11: 3 "When the foundations are being destroyed, what can the righteous do?")
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To: Mfkmmof4
Yes, in post 118 they are both pictures of Terri. The first is of her and Michael before going to the malpractice trial. The second is with her mother, a few years ago.
200 posted on 11/02/2003 5:46:14 PM PST by Ohioan from Florida
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