There is a key difference, that I can see. "I have asked my wife"
This is one reason that the legal construct of a 'living will' came to be, so that such wishes can be made without it being a question of guessing what the person would want, often times with the sole witness being someone who could have alterior motives.
I agree.
A living will would have prevented this spectacle.
[No, I did not notice your typo. I tend to read fast and my brain acts like a spell check ;-]