I agree, but what I hear you saying is that you are choosing to stay. This is your call of course. People are prisoners for a great many reasons of their own choosing.
I’m in PA part-time because our grandkids are here. But of course, it isn’t NJ.
I am a prisoner in suburb of philly. I learned while living under Mt Mansfield in Vt during the late 70’s that it doesn’t matter what the place looks like or the hardships as long as you love the people you are with you will make it.
I left. I was in heaven and hell. Consequences of not following in the footsteps of my team leader Savior.