A 'Marriage Strike' Emerges As Men Decide Not To Risk Loss

The Philadelphia Inquirer ^ | July 5, 2002 | Glenn Sacks and Dianna Thompson

[William Terrell]

Well, I seriously think that she's not aware. It seems to use a similar mechanism as the storage and retrieval error so often seen primarilly in women.

The storage and retrieval error goes like this: if you say something innocent or with more than one possible meaning, a woman will choose the worse possible meaning and store the feeling of her emotional reaction to it, without storing the circumstances. Then, when the issue comes up later, she will play back the stored feeling and the discussion will focus on what you must have said to make her feel that way regardless of what you actually said originally.

And she will be completely unaware of the process and if you point it out, well, she knows what you must have said or she wouldn't have felt that way. You will lose this conflict, bank on it.

[Jhoffa_]

PS: Paul says it's better not to marry.

So eternal life does not hinge on marriage alone.

(provided one is celebate, fornication brings on a host of new and interesting problems.)

[buccaneer81]

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[johniegrad]

Thanks for your post. I'm 48 now and remarried after 10 years of being single. It has worked out very well and my kids are 25 and 23 respectively. No more kids for me though. My wife is fine with that. I've recovered financially and life is better. As you have said, if something happened to this wife I would also probably live out the rest of life alone. Good luck to you my friend. Keep in touch from time to time.

[Jhoffa_]

Thanks for the link.

However, I kind of draw a distinction here..

I mean, you have the good man who is legislated out of marriage. Him I respect and understand.

The "don't buy the cow" guy who is basically dishonorable and cares less abou tthe institution of marriage.. Him I dislike.

I don't respect him and I don't agree with him.

[Rebelbase]

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[buccaneer81]

The "don't buy the cow" guy who is basically dishonorable and cares less abou tthe institution of marriage.. Him I dislike.

I agree. But as a society we're heading there at the speed of sound. The only think that will reverse course is a radical change in all aspects of domestic law. Unfortunately, not in our lifetime.

[johniegrad]

Good post. Has it really been 5 for you? Man, you better quit (getting married that is).

[buccaneer81]

All your bitters are belong to us! LOL!

[Jhoffa_]

I agree. But as a society we're heading there at the speed of sound.

Absolutely.. And again, life immitates law.

[Little Bill]

You must be a NUN.

[Tennessee_Bob]

I thought that was you on the board of AG. So, what have you been doing lately? I was recruited to Illuminatus AmbGH from AG a couple years ago. The money is good, and the benefits are great!

[luckodeirish]

I (female) have to agree on this too, but with a couple of comments. The men I have known who have been financially ruined seem to have married fairly low functioning women, the ones who have little or no skills that would allow them to have a well paying career. Additionally, these women, maybe because they have not been in the "real world" of work, political office nastiness, finance, have little or no emotional coping skills and seem unable to effectively deal with life's daily stresses.So, when the divorce happens the women end up with the kids, living in the house, not having to work, while the guy lives in an apartment sucking down KFC...

Now, on the other hand, I have known women who make great money who have end up paying alimony to the husband.

[Tennessee_Bob]

So what exactly are you trying to say here??

[Rebelbase]

Ping for more of what we were talking about earlier today.

[happytobealive]

How many bachelors do you know who have turned their lives over to the service of others? I can't think of any except some good priests, and they really are married in that they've been faithful to their life-long commitment to Christ and his flock.

[Jhoffa_]

How many bachelors do you know who have turned their lives over to the service of others?

LOL!

Sorry, but I fail to see where that's a negative.

A man's service is offered to his wife out of respect for her, but it is not the way marriage is structured or defined in the Scriptures. It's given freely but cannot be demanded by the wife.

And quite frankly the very wording of your post offends me.

[Wondervixen]

Mr. Terrell, those girls need to grow the heck up and learn (like I did from my mother & grandmothers) to stand on their two feet and be responsible for their actions.

Sure, I have friends, but I keep a balance of male and female and never get so close that their thoughts become MINE. It's a matter of keeping your nose out of other people's business. I have 3 little girls with my husband and I'm co-authoring a true crime book on the side...I don't have the time to be a problem solver for friends in a committee and I refuse to let one of them solve mine either.

[Jhoffa_]

It's almost as though you get to both define the terms ("service") and the extent to which I must practice them to be worthy of life.

That's God's job.. you just let him decide what constitutes "service to others" and who is keeping up with the task..

[Da Rev]

It's 'cheaper to keep'er' and always will be. And, as men, we will always need to show that we are deserving of the superior title we bear. I've been married for, oh, 16, 17 years or so (who remembers) and have the battle scars to prove it. I'm proud to say I have weathered the storm. I know it's sad commentary but there's not much else to add to that pathetic statement. Besides, I still get to be 'on top' if not in bed then at least in my mind - or what's left of my mind...damn this is going from bad to worse. I'll quit while I'm behind. Which compared to most other men is well ahead, sadly.