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I am guilty of a horrendous crime on dating apps that's left me single, confesses JANA HOCKING, and if you learn from my mistake you might just meet the perfect man
Daily Mail ^ | 11 March 2023 | Jana Hocking

Posted on 03/13/2023 1:23:18 PM PDT by nickcarraway

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To: Ellendra; nickcarraway
Maybe it’s because I’m autistic, but speaking as a woman, I have NEVER understood this obsession most women have for height! As long as he’s tall enough to climb the stairs unassisted, and short enough not to get clobbered by the average ceiling fan, then what’s it matter?

nickcarraway got it right in his reply to your inquiry (reason = evolution), but let me expand upon it (because his brief explanation may have omitted certain intermediate logical steps, thus requiring the listener to make "leaps of logic"):

1. It is impossible to "reason" someone out of a "position" (political stance, preference, opinion, prejudice, etc.) that they didn't "reason" themselves into.

2. Women's initial preference for tall mates is a result of evolution - not conscious thought; women who mated with tall and strong men (who hung around) got additional protection and provisioning and were thus able to "out-procreate" their sillier sisters who mated with shorter and weaker men.

3. An additional, secondary factor is the so-called "Dazzling Sons" theory. Because of point 2 (above), there was a premium on taller, stronger men. Women who preferred such men on an instinctive level thus gradually out-bred women without such a preference. Gradually, women became consciously aware of this evolutionary preference and its real-world consequences - were able to verbalize it, communicate it, incorporate it into their lore, reinforce it socially, instruct their offspring to follow it, etc. Thus, a positive feedback loop arose. By this point, even if the evolutionary advantage conferred by height and strength became irrelevant (e.g., due to technological advances, labor-saving inventions, the rule of law, etc.), the social norm has already established itself and acquired such momentum as to constitute a "runaway effect."

All this plays into "Game Theory," which is perhaps why neuro-divergent people may have difficulty grasping it intuitively (I, myself, have come to acquire a basic understanding of it only after many years of reading).

Women don't generally have to "waste their time" brooding over such mechanisms of the Sexual Marketplace because - at least while still in their prime years - they are in a "Seller's Market" and hence develop an "Abundance Mindset." They are essentially getting "product" thrown in their faces, and so don't have to worry about understanding market mechanisms.

In their teens and early 20s, 80% of all men are, in contrast, in their "Lean Years," and only slowly entering their prime years. The have to "hustle" if they want to successfully market their "product." They thus have a "Scarcity Mindset," which favors spending hundreds of hours contemplating how they got there, what factors are responsible for their frustration, what they could do to improve their chances, etc.

Regards,

81 posted on 03/15/2023 12:23:18 AM PDT by alexander_busek (Extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence.)
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To: Oldhunk
You have to wonder how you get such a big jump in just two generations.

Your grandparents spent their formative years (when their skeletons were striving to attain their optimal height) struggling in some obscure, overcrowded East European slum, or leading a hardscrabble life as overworked peasants somewhere in the Balkans. Breakfast consisted of cold Kasha - rarely, with a dash of milk. Lunch was a hunk of coarse bread and maybe a sliver of Sala. Supper was thin Borscht. They were coughing and spitting up blood half the time. Some of their siblings died of Tuberculosis or Cholera. Is it any wonder they weren't able to maximize their genetic potential?

Regards,

82 posted on 03/15/2023 12:32:01 AM PDT by alexander_busek (Extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence.)
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To: Veto!
I’m just a tad over 5’1’ and absolutely do not want a man over 6’. If we went dancing [...]

I'll assume that you were being facetious, for the sake of humor.

You have probably spent max. 0.05% of your life on the dance floor. The other 99.95% of your life was spent elsewhere (albeit also sleeping or on your knees scrubbing the floor, etc. - but you get my point).

For most social settings / being seen in public with your mate, the extra social status-enhancing "cachet" you would enjoy having a tall husband would more than make up for the awkward dancing configuration.

Regards,

83 posted on 03/15/2023 12:36:53 AM PDT by alexander_busek (Extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence.)
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To: House Atreides
He should have become an a successful actor. Lots of short, successful actors have no problems getting dates.

About 99% of all actors are unsuccessful.

Your advice is about as useful as advising him to become a Silicon Valley entrepreneur, a Saudi oil prince, or a Russian oligarch.

Regards,

84 posted on 03/15/2023 12:40:43 AM PDT by alexander_busek (Extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence.)
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To: Hammerhead
[...] then get to the thickest you can find soul inserts [...]

I'd be interested in discovering where I could find some soul inserts. Would really contribute to my spiritual development!

Regards,

85 posted on 03/15/2023 12:44:20 AM PDT by alexander_busek (Extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence.)
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To: SauronOfMordor
I’m thinking that shorter men could compensate by working out and getting very muscular.

And I'm thinking that fugly women could compensate by "always smiling."

That's at best a band-aid.

A slender figure enhances height (it's an optical illusion). Conversely, body-building will tend to make a person appear shorter.

Regards,

86 posted on 03/15/2023 12:50:01 AM PDT by alexander_busek (Extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence.)
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To: alexander_busek

If you got soul, nothing else matter white man.


87 posted on 03/15/2023 6:51:33 AM PDT by Hammerhead
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To: Bloody Sam Roberts

Uuummmm. I think that would be Length and Girth...


88 posted on 03/15/2023 6:54:29 AM PDT by sit-rep ( )
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To: cgbg

Was never for me!! Most of the girls I dated were a couple inches taller than me. And I loved it when we went out formally and they wore heels a few inches in height!!..

Legs that could wrap around you twice!!


89 posted on 03/15/2023 6:58:37 AM PDT by sit-rep ( )
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To: nickcarraway

Some women are a mess... And if any guy can’t get a woman to have a massive earthquake orgasm with his pinky finger, the problem ain’t the love tool!!


90 posted on 03/15/2023 7:01:45 AM PDT by sit-rep ( )
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To: RightOnTheBorder

My son is 5’8” and has always been self conscious about his height (blames me, I’m 5’2”). He said he never date a girl taller than him, but his fiancé is taller than him lol.

When they go out she wears flats and he wears his cowboy boots lol. It makes them about even 😂


91 posted on 03/15/2023 7:04:37 AM PDT by LilFarmer
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