Science Says Lasting Relationships Come Down To 2 Basic Traits

Business Insider ^ | 11/10/2014 | EMILY ESFAHANI SMITH, THE ATLANTIC

[jsanders2001]

Don’t forget patience and tolerance...

[Hulka]

“The MAJORITY of marriages fail. . .”

Okay. . .but in the nest paragraph:

“Of all the people who get married, only three in ten remain in healthy, happy marriages. . .”

Three out of ten is now a majority?

Must be common core math. . .

[ShadowAce]

It’s actually ONE basic trait—Putting your spouse’s needs before your own.

[Alex Murphy]

1) Don't go into science as a profession. It is not, contrary to what the college recruiters are telling you, a "chick magnet" profession.

2) Don't write these types of articles for publication in a scholarly journal. No one reads them. Especially not girls.

[COBOL2Java]

Backstory on the Beatles' "All you need is Love" song. As with many of their songs from that era, they got the idea from local media. This one came from a BBC interview of a couple that had recently celebrated their 75th wedding anniversary. The reporter asked them what was the key to their long life together, at which point the wife kissed her husband and responded back in Cockney British to the gent taking the notes: "All you need is Love, Love!"

May be apocryphal, but I remember reading that a long time ago.

[Berlin_Freeper]

My wife is a hoarder.
Basically, I’ve been hoarded.

[PGR88]

IMHO - successful marriage is recognizing you are part of something greater than yourself, and greater than the sum of its parts. You are part of a marriage, and a family - both immediate (children) but also in-laws, cousins, etc....

It helps greatly also to believe that your marriage, as man and wife, are ordained and blessed by God - again, something greater than the sum of the parts.

[BitWielder1]

Read it again. 7 of 10 fail, that's a majority.

[Bertha Fanation]

KINDNESS and GENEROSITY

Has worked in our marriage for years. The wife is flush with both, which drove her to take me on as a reclamation project.

[Mygirlsmom]

It helps greatly also to believe that your marriage, as man and wife, are ordained and blessed by God - again, something greater than the sum of the parts.

That is key.

[reformed_dem]

Seven out of ten marriages failing is a majority. Three in ten remain in healthy, happy marriages....

[Mygirlsmom]

When husband and wife come closer to God, they come closer to each other as well.

[Opinionated Blowhard]

Money and sex?

[TruthInThoughtWordAndDeed]

Husband, love your wife.

Wife, respect your husband.

Simple, biblical wisdom.

[MrEdd]

Of course, some people become involved in three or ten separate failed marriages. So how useful is a statistic that doesn’t norm that out?

[pburgh01]

What makes a good marriage is sexual polarity. Men acting like men and women acting like women. We live in a time of sexual ambiguity. Men are to be neutered, compliant, doormats and women are told to be over assertive, impatient, driven tiger women. I date a woman my own age who is much more financially successful and has dated a few famous,successful men(Pro Athletes, CEOs and music industry executives) She met quite a few when she was running a large charity. What I have learned with her after 3 years and a real good relationship with her, is women love a man who acts like a man, meaning a man who keeps his word,who is sexually forward and aggressive, a man who has a rich , diversified life OUTSIDE the relationship, who pays his bills and is good with money. who is thoughtful, kind and is always authentic.

I have done lots of work on myself, sometimes acting contrary to what you would think would make a successful relationship. The payoff is I like being is a relationship with her and that creates a positive feedback loop. What is funny the thing she said the more successful and good looking the men she dated, the more f'ed up they were, the less secure with themselves they were, the more they were unauthentic. Why did she go out with me??? Hmmm we met waiting in line for a table at a restaurant. I talked to her and her friend, thought she was drop dead and ...as I was leaving I placed my phone on her table as I went to the rest room, whispered in her ear that I wanted her to add her phone number to my phone. I came back, saw the phone on the edge of her table. I picked it up and her name and number were entered... She confessed that was the cutest, most assertive and sexually exciting thing ANY man had done with her. Lightbulb went off moment for me. Women love assertive, confident men. And...that leads to a good marriage.

[NEMDF]

Read again what you wrote.

3 in ten don’t fail.

would mean 7 in ten fail.

7 in ten = majority. I think.

[Beowulf9]

“My wife is a hoarder.
Basically, I’ve been hoarded.”

Lol!

So I take it the Berlin wall is not going anywhere;)

[MNDude]

A man never knows what true happiness is until he is married. Unfortunately, by then it’s already too late!