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The Bible commands husbands to love their wives. Women are made as responders. If he loves you the love will be returned.
Control and ownership have no place in a marriage.
One can never demand respect or submission from a spouse. Where there is love, so those things will fall in place when needed in the marriage.
Remember, the last thing you said that your wife agreed with was when you said, “I DO.”
I have no use for feminists, and a lot of the time women in general irritate me. Yes, I said it-—so much for the sisterhood. I’ve seen enough of men portrayed as bumbling fools to know it’s a very real fact, and I hate it.
BUT. Regarding the example of the man who was being publicly “gutted, emasculated, and neutered”: why was he allowing it? Where were his gonads? He just stood there and chuckled like an obliging doormat? For that reason, I have little sympathy for him.
Man up, guys. It’s true that a husband doesn’t have to earn his wife’s respect, but it’s also a sad truth that behaving like a cowed Chihuahua will earn you disrespect.
Case in point-—my brother’s sister and her ex-husband. There was no bad guy in that marriage; they were just two very ill-suited people who should have never married each other. During the divorce, he would get on his knees in front of her and cry and weep and whimper, begging her to take him back. He often called me on the phone and did the same thing....crying and wailing.
There is something about behavior like that from a man that gets in a woman’s soul and irritates the hell out of her. We just do not want to see men behaving like wimps or dishrags or crying babies. I took it as long as I could from my sister-in-law’s ex. Finally I told him that if he EVER wanted to find another woman he was going to have to stop ACTING like one.....he needed to man up and stop the damn bawling.
I understand that many modern women seem to outright despise men. But it’s up to you, men, whether you allow yourselves to be mistreated...or not.
When women are young, hot and still putting out the poontang on a regular basis men will put up with a lot. So women get the wrong impression. Around the age of 40 or so when the tang output goes way down and things are starting to sag and bellies get bigger, men lose their willingness to put up with “the bitch”. Once the kids are gone so are they. Sad.
The man in the story should never have allowed that to continue happening, he should have spoke up when she contradicted him in public. He allowed himself to be put down. There is a point at which you stop being smilingly silent and ‘speak up’.
People DO want respect, but it has to be earned by both sides. Frankly, how you treat each other should have been established while dating. In my large circle of married couples I don’t know a single man who is a wimp!
To have a husband or a wife publicly put you down, it HURTS - it’s a “la-de-da” moment you don’t forget.