Posted on 05/06/2006 4:18:06 AM PDT by gobucks
We've been on the other side of the issue. When some folks find out we have - gasp - one child, they assume things. *God* gave us one child. Infertility played the biggest role in that. Regardless, we have one blessing and she's truly wonderful.
I think that generally people mean well but have a tendency to run off their mouths, obviously not thinking first.
Thanks, and yes. Thinking before typing, or speaking, is a real virtue. I should think more on that ... lol
Thinking before typing or speaking is a trait we should *all* practice! :o)
Blast from the past......how are you. FReep mail me and catch me up.
absolutely!
i heard alot of "are you going to try for a girl?"
after our second son was born. i told them all the
same ... "if it happens ..." :D
and then we had our daughter! she will start kdg. this
fall, as her older brothers enter 6th and 12th grades.
we couldnt be prouder parents.
Want another?
This person was likely just making conversation, not making global reproductive policy. :)
Remember what Jefferson Davis' middle name was. "Finis", and he was the last.
if it happens :)
I don't know how many times I've closed a "Posting Comment" window after thinking better of it. It's better to do that than have something dumb you wrote permanently stuck in a thread for all to see.
requires practice. ;)
true ;)
I wish I could tell you that I have been able to convince a single person that children are a blessing, but I can't. The folks I know are very set in their ways on the question. Either they know kids are a blessing and already have several; they know kids are a blessing and are struggling with infertility, or they look at me like a baby factory because I have--gasp--three kids!!! Those folks I just stay away from.
Well, this is off topic, but the finis part I hadn't heard of ...
When Jeff Davis was finally arrested at the conclusion of the war, I recently learned, he was disguised as a woman, wearing clothes provided to him by his wife.
Do you know if this is true?
"...or they look at me like a baby factory because I have--gasp--three kids!!! Those folks I just stay away from."
I really understand where you are coming from. That is the temptation I have too. But I've come to a place where I have understood the more I stay away from such people, the more of them that just 'appear'. They become more and more like each other, and work very diligently at recruiting any fence sitters to their side.
But, I'm sure 'Those folks' would not voluntarily choose this cold outlook. So, I realistically know that windmills are resistant to charges; but if no one takes the posture of creating doubt, at the least, then we become more like the Amish.
Well, then again, maybe that would be a good thing.
Anyway, thank you for the congrats.
The North said it was true, the South said it wasn't. I'm from Pennsylvania. :)
:)
But I've come to a place where I have understood the more I stay away from such people, the more of them that just 'appear'. They become more and more like each other, and work very diligently at recruiting any fence sitters to their side.
This coincides with a theory of mine that has consumed much of my thinking since becoming a parent eight years ago. I hope you don't mind the tangent, but I relish the chance to discuss this with a fellow parent.
I believe that as one grows into parenthood, in the best of circumstances, one begins to view the world increasingly as black and white, right and wrong. What was once a gray area, a fence upon which to sit, is transformed into solid ground (a foundation?). One of the greatest gifts we can give our children is clarity--clearly defined boundaries. Children thrive on such clarity, and we cannot pass it on to them unless we posess it ourselves. I believe that in a good parent, this is an innate understanding. I did not realize for several months after the birth of my oldest how my view of the world was changing, how the gray areas were becoming more sharply defined shades; perhaps this is because, like most conservatives, there wasn't a whole lot of gray there to begin with. Now, I cannot think of any gray I have left over, and I believe my children are infinitely better off because of this. That's my theory, anyway...
...which arcs us back to what I stated, about the folks I stay away from. In the liberal bastion that is Lansing, I cannot completely withdraw from those who are so set in their left-leaning, anti-family ways, but I no longer actively engage them (unless it is on the Capitol lawn, just down the street). It is the fence sitters I have set my sights on, because I know that it is those folks living with indecision whom my liberal counterparts desire to sway to their thinking. Every day is an election, and the fence sitters are the swing states. As a homemaker, as a wife and mother, my time is, sadly, too limited to take on New York. There is hope in Ohio!
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