Posted on 11/18/2005 9:51:33 AM PST by ShadowAce
What truth? It is evident to everyone who you are - apparently you are embarrassed so you lie about it - that's your problem - but professing to having a relationship with someone to whom you are not married is cheating Missy - you can say all you want that it isn't but it is -
You also need to stop being naive about people and realize real people have real problems and most try to work them out the best way they can...It's called being a Human Being....
That is like saying everyone you speak to on Freerepublic that is not your husband is cheating, is that what you are saying?
You said you were trying to work on your marriage - how is having cyber affairs a legitimate attempt to work on your marriage?
YOU said you couldn't get this person out of your head - that is very different from having a platonic (that means not having a cyber affair) friend on this forum
Did I leave him? everyone has to heal the best way they can
you are speaking about a situation you have never been in, that being the case how do you really know what you would do?
Healing by affairs? That's a new one -
YOU said you couldn't get this person out of your head
That is correct, because I think he is a wonderful human being and I like what he is all about, that does not mean I am going to go and have an affair.. that is my thoughts.
"that is my thoughts" - what does that mean?
If you don't think people think fo others while married, you are sadly mistaken this happens all the time, what tears a family apart is infidelity not someone's private thoughts.
My thoughts about another man other than my husband...
Thoughts no more and no less..Just thoughts.
Wow, you really are messed up - if your husband doesn't do it for you Missy, then as I said before, I feel sorry for you
And as I said you are naive if you do not think this happens...I did not say it is right but it happens.
And as far as Lust of the heart everyone is guilty of it and some time in there life and if they say *Not me it's a lie...
Here's where you have a problem - people work on their marriage all the time. I doubt anyone goes through a week and doesn't have something that annoys them - we all do - but I accept that I do things that will annoy my husband just as he does things occasionally that annoy me - but I make it a point to thank him for what he does and show appreciation for who he is. I can't even imagine how it would hurt him to think that I NEEDED to fantasize about someone else instead of him - I would be heartbroken to hurt my husband like that.
Well I don't lie and I don't lust after other men - Of course I married a Marine so who would I lust after other than him?
As I said to you *Your thoughts* belong to you....We do not make a point to hurt each other, we both have been married to other people, my husband has said he feels really guilty about leaving his first wife for whom he has 3 boys almost grown now and understands the importance of how much a a family means to him or his kids, so if he fantasizes about life with his former wife and kids should I be jealous? no it's a thought a private one.
Good God, someone should have you as a case study - You've been married ten years and he still wants the exwife? And this doesn't bother you? I just don't get that -
And this doesn't bother you? No....
What bother me? That your husband wants his exwife?
He does not want her, he just feels it was an obligation to stay with her because he had 3 boys, we have no children together.
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