Does catty gossip help women snare a mate?

abc (au) ^ | 4/04 | anna salleh

[Dashing Dasher]

More booty!

Ach Tung!
Schneller!! Schneller!!


(gee, that dominatrix thing keeps coming back...)

[Oberon]

gee, that dominatrix thing keeps coming back...

I'm not sure it can be just a job. I think you have to kind of live the role. (Not that I'd know or anything.)

[Twinkie]

Dear BigWaveBetty,

If your first husband (now ex I assume!) is with someone else now, unless he has had some sort of a true change of heart - I will bet you he treats her the same or worse than he did you. I think a whole lot of it with these men is that many times their mothers raised them like little princes, so spoiled and petted, with the idea that no woman (but them) is good enough for them.

[najida]

I always thought the trait of 'breathing' was enough for most men ;)

[Dashing Dasher]

I believe you may be right - and I have finally found my true calling!

[Oberon]

I always thought the trait of 'breathing' was enough for most men ;)

Well, it is...for most men. I'm not most men. =]

Oh, and another requirement is a certain minimum level of loyalty. I once had a young woman I dated go around telling her friends stuff about me...uncharitable stuff. She got uninvited to our next date in short order.

[najida]

Weeelllll

Yer one 'o the good guys :)

[Oberon]

Weeelllll

Yer one 'o the good guys :)

[glances at the ground]

Aww, shucks, ma'am...'tweren't nuthin'...

[digs toe in dirt]

[BigWaveBetty]

Dear Twinkie (love you but you're so bad for my girlish figure!),

You are correct to assume he is the EX and yes does treat his wife worse than he treated me. But that's only because she's stayed with him until this very day.

I'm not quite sure how his mother treated him but his dad did give him an education in how to abuse your wife. And as our daughter witnessed, he learned very well from his father.

Our daughter (his and mine) was to stay with him for two weeks at a time during summer vacation (with an occasional weekend when it was convenient) but like clockwork, less than a week into the visit she'd call me wanting to come home. Once home she'd tell me about the awful knock down drag out fights her father and stepmom would have. After the second time this happened I put my foot down - no long stays. He threatened to take me to court to get custody so finally she told him herself that she didn't want to stay with him anymore.

Then he threatened her! He'd have the sheriff drag her out of here, no more Christmas or birthday presents for her! She, at the ripe old age of 10 told him she didn't care, that he could keep his crappy presents. And I begged him to take me to court. I really begged! I couldn't wait to tell a judge what had been going on. One thing is always true, bullies are chicken. We never did see a judge darnit. I guess he figured it'd be difficult to explain to the judge why he was two years in arrears with child support.

Here's the funniest part... he was ordered to pay $50 a week at my request. The divorce judge wanted to make it more but I knew he'd take his anger out on our daughter. $50 a week for 15 years... yeah, never raised it once, perplexing the Child Support Enforcement folks. And to this day, according to the EX, I'm a money grubbing whore.

Not to worry though, I've been happily married to a wonderful man for 20 years and though living well is the best revenge, living happily with a man who loves and honors you is the ultimate revenge. :-)