[mjp]

If you follow him around, you're giving him all the power. You're letting him control your life. Is that really what you want?"

"If you follow him around, you're never going to be able to move on. You're always going to be stuck in the past. Is that really what you want?"

[mjp]

Oppose the idea that your life should revolve around someone else's actions. Embrace the belief that your life's direction should be guided by your own aspirations and values.

Seek out counterexamples where following someone closely did not lead to the desired outcomes or where it had negative consequences.

Consider that the belief in following someone closely might be a benevolent double blind—a well-intentioned but limiting belief

What evidence do you have that following him around will make him do what you want?

What evidence do you have that following him around will make you happy?