An acquaintance has paid for two daughter’s weddings, $60,000 each. Nothing short of insane.
Two kids we know are getting married in August. Two weddings. Each have sent out no less than three announcements / invitations. I’ll send a gift and wish them well. They won’t even notice we are not there.
We married nearly 50 years ago. I paid for everything but the dress and that came from Penny’s and she was a knockout. The rest could not have cost much because both of us had less than not much. I managed 5 days in a row off at Christmas time and we got caught in a terrible ice storm heading back for Midland, Texas. My boss covered for me until we could get back and we went from there. Our weekend “entertainment” consisted of very long trips around the Permian Basin making the rigs so I could better learn my trade. We had a good time of it.
The whole affair of making a splash, statement or one-upsmanship is way out of hand.
I’ve started thinking about the subset of things I have learned. It is the things I have learned that I wish I had learned a WHOLE lot sooner. I think one of those things is that if you can marry for love and not for lust it is a whole lot better. Knowing the difference, that’s the rub. Waiting for the perfect one and waiting too long, that’s the problem?
My husband and I got married at City Hall in 1972 after having lived together for two years. I wore a dress I already owned. One of our professors had a reception for us with about 40 people. When the prof’s wife took me to a bakery to look at wedding cakes, they all looked pretty much the same. She said she was hesitant to mention it, but their 17-year-old son really wanted to make the cake for us. I said yes. The cake was delicious, though it didn’t look like a tradititonal wedding cake, but I was so touched that he wanted to do that for us. I have never once regretted not having a big wedding.