Another thing you can do is to fight for as many property tax exemptions as you can. There is usually a homestead exemption, and depending on your age and veteran status, there could be others. Starve the beast, if you can.
Actually, to take that further, one can leave in a CHEAP house (or condo), and while the Jones’s may mock your ‘lifestyle’, your kids will be JUST FINE, particularly if there’s a swimming pool.