Really? The absence of fear of violence, or an actual invitation for it by a 4-5 year old is not an indication of pathology - her's or someone else's? Perhaps it is better to exasperate a child?
My one size fits all comment was obviously lost on you.
“The absence of fear of violence”
Violence associated with spanking. Hmmm. Sounds like you’ve been reading too much of Dr. Spock, or his disciples.