Here is my take.
Some kids are heading to that place no matter what you do. A guy I grew up with, who was my friend, was one.
At some point, my Dad sat me down and said that while my friend had treated me with respect and very kindly, he was “a bad dog” and was heading to an early grave. I hated that, but he did.
Looking back, I can see it. He had been in and out of programs, homes, and support systems. More than I can believe. Yet he chose to go back into the life, and ended up on death row.
Some people are going to be lost.
Maybe, maybe not. This is good advice to those whose temperament convinces them that there is a simple solution that fits every situation and will solve the problem. I just watched an interesting talk by a neuroscientist whose genetics and brain scans confirmed he was a sociopath. His ancestors were well known for their murderous exploits. Yet, he found a niche where he was a great benefit to mankind. If he were treated with cruelty an the wrong time, his path would have been much different, little doubt.