“I don’t remember Reagan starting a hot war in on Russia’s border, and then sending Ukraine front-line weapons there.”
Neither do I. But I do remember the USSR (really, Russia, because Moscow called all the shots) starting a hot war on its border in 1979 (Afghanistan); Russia starting a hot war on its border in 1993 (Chechnya) and again in 1996 (Chechnya); Russia starting a hot war on its border in 2008 (Georgia); Russia starting a hot war on its border in 2014 (Ukraine); Russia starting a hot war on its border in 2022 (Ukraine).
Yep and we knew enough to KEEP CLEAR of the Soviets during the Cold War, and so never had to deal with nuclear scenarios.