I was a military brat of a 30 year Navy man, so I saw my mom and dad doing their healthcare. I don’t begrudge my mom her care, because boy, she put up with a huge amount being a Navy wife.
God Bless that woman.
A career soldier is far different than an in and out soldier like I was and the vast majority of the family members the local VA has to deal with.
Retired military personnel and their eligible family members are covered under Tricare.........Which by the way doesn't require they get their medical care thru the local VA.