Four months isn’t really that long.....it takes 6 months for people to formulate new patterns, longer if they’re not trying because it takes time to ‘see’ a problem clearly before you can act.
You need to form a lifestyle of your own not dependent on your son nor his family for awhile. Give them the space they need to figure things out - alone.
My son cut the entire family off for a year. He had issues he needed to sort out and I gave him the space to do so.....and yes it’s very hard to do that. Now he comes see me and calls far more than he ever did before.
Good things come to those who wait....is very true.
Understood.
It’s like being lost in the woods. At the present moment you are hopin’ you get out but you don’t know if you will be lost in the woods forever.