No relative of mine will ever be in a nursing home. Recently I heard of the passing of a woman who had 15 children and over 40 adult grandchildren. Not one of them could care for her at home.
YMMV.
Given the current economics of Biden America and the lack of basic teachings as to how to take care of the sick in one’s own home including dealing with dementia and the screaming aunt who can’t be trusted by herself, it is understandable. I think folks had better learn how since I see a giant collapse coming to the entire medical elder industry soon.
I am an RN so I feel reasonably able to care for my wife or family members if I needed to, but I also have to work and no one will support me as I tried to stay 24/7 with such a sick one.
My mother had me and 2 other sons and she would consciously just die and be ashamed if this old boy or my brothers had to care for for her personal needs while she was still consciously sentient. Even if money was no issue, the availability of decent care workers for private care 24/7 or even part of the day is spotty at best. I have no sisters and my wife would not take on that role.