12 have can be abusive and intimidating to newbies and women.
I’d recommend a 357/38 revolver
If women are involved I believe a short barrel (legal) 20ga pump is the gun. Point and pull the trigger, but make sure they are familiar with its operation.
357 is great for going through cheap walls and killing a neighbor
20 gauge for newbies, ladies, and anyone else at the range inside residences.