[hanamizu]

Too many American women believe they cannot be seen as sexy and intelligent at the same time. They must choose one or the other.

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I taught Jr High for many years. I watched generations of girls struggle with this—be smart or be popular. Only the strongest willed chose the former.

[polymuser]

“I watched generations of girls struggle with this—be smart or be popular. Only the strongest willed chose the former.”

And I’ll bet most of the former are conservative.

[A_perfect_lady]

I taught middle school for 11 years and high school for 5, and yes, the only way a girl can be smart without fallout is if she is quietly smart, never tries to be funny, and is willing to be the silent, admiring audience to all the loutish boys demanding attention every day. She can write well and test well, but she'd best keep her elbows in and stay quiet. And smile when the boys want smiling.

And too many men continue to feel that way about women: it's okay to be smart, as long as we remember that we are just women, and men's need for attention and reassurance must always come first.

[Erik Latranyi]

I taught Jr High for many years. I watched generations of girls struggle with this—be smart or be popular. Only the strongest willed chose the former.

Only a fraction understand that a woman can be both intelligent and sexy. That is what women in other countries understand and why men pursue them.