I think the reason for this is that the enemy is fighting an offensive war and we are playing defense (to the extent we are playing at all).
Offense is active/proactive and defense is of course reactive.
Until our side realizes it is in a war and accepts the fact that we must fight to save our lives and our way of life, we are just spectators. We are not organized because, for the most part, we aren't even active participants in the war.
I think folks are waking up, slowly at best, but we need a real wake-up call.
Our current situation reminds me of what the U.S. was like before Pearl Harbor.
And you can not win a war with a strategy based on defense. If you do, the enemy gets to define the parameters of the engagement to their advantage; place, time and method.