Yes, this always ticks me off. If you want people to stop using the "N" word, then stop using the "N" word. I don't see members of other racial groups calling each other crude names, why do American Blacks do this?
People have historically taken possession of slurs—deplorables anyone? Before the PC police wrested control from normal people, it was very common for people of all races and cultures bandy about slurs without animus. Today, it’s primarily used to keep people alienated.