Yeah, come home after a rough day and I have glass of wine to feel better. It often ends tragically. I have to get up the next morning, go back to work and experience another s4itty day.
Consider the most retro-grade culture on the planet today; about the only thing they share is fire. Marriage is only a sham - to an 8 year old cousin. I'm talking about the need to deal with 18 year olds madly in love and willing to kill.
Fire (cooking/environment), dogs (companions/security) and alcohol (socialization via story telling aka verbal history) round out community evolution over 10s of thousands of years.