Like very hot coffee? Red wine? Something moldy from the fridge? or WORSE?
Me, I’m just trying to be nicer.
Part of my self-improvement program, you know.
I think he means spilling a thing that was very
delicious but messy so that now you have the double
frustration of having the mess all over your clothes
and at the same time you lose out on eating the portion
that you spilled.
Some really insidiously nasty like that.
Nasty but civil.