Move to Boston.
You’ll see it all the time. Just has it happen again last Friday. Waiting for the trolley standing next to a woman and with a smile and gesture said ‘ After you ‘.
Her response was a pinched face look of distaste and a ‘ No! ‘
I didn’t even bother getting into it with her.
I’ve been yelled at by women on the train when offering them my seat.
It goes on all the damned time.
You should just move away from the coast. I’d say Midwest or South. Take your pick.
It’s a blessing to live in the south. I don’t know how I’d respond to the rudeness you report. I might start by asking: have you always been this rude, or did you have to learn it? After that I hope I’d just laugh at her ridiculousness.