I see nothing wrong with contributing to one person's buying and cooking the meal although I don't ask guests myself. Especially if someone is pinching pennies. But, as a guest, grandma should do the washing up with a few volunteers while the boys retreat to the cigars or football game.
Did anyone notice that this is a critique of the “progressive taxation” scheme?
Since when was it an "either/or" experience ....How about cigars, football and bourbon..... :^)
BTW, this year we are going to relatives house for TG dinner and we bring a couple bottles of very nice wine, bourbon, expensive chocolates and a brandied cake......an homage to the chef!