A fellow I served with in Viet Nam came home from the war, went to law school married a fellow student and both became highly successful attorneys. When he was 59 years old and on a business trip his wife left him and he returned to find out she had sold the house and that everything except one bank account was in her name. He had no clue before and was devastated. He thought he had a fine marriage. He even went out and bought a gun to shoot himself. then he got to thinking he had always meant to go back to Viet Nam to see what the country looked like now (2006) and put off the suicide. He went for a 2 week visit . He had business contacts there so he wasn’t just on his own and went to parties and on outings. There was always a pleasant young widow at these things. He went back a couple more times in a 4 month period and that young widow was always around. Upshot: he married her and hasn’t been back to the States since. I met her and her daughter when I visited with him in Ha Noi and later in Nha Trang. She is ideal and Art doesn’t have to worry about visas and stuff, His in laws are old retired Party bureaucrats. Young widows with children have no marriage prospects in Viet Nam and the parents spotted the American, found out his situation and trapped him. Best thing that ever happened to him.
That is quite a story. Good for your friend.
I can't tell you how many times I've heard that, that the man did not see it coming and had no clue.
I'll tell you, women who are not happy in their marriages do not hide it that well.
Men seem to miss many of the signs that something is wrong and don't realize how unhappy their wives are in the marriage and with their relationship with him.