If you have not done so yet, immediately file a formal claim with the Veterans Administration. This is necessary to preserve the right to benefits, if found entitled, from the earliest date possible. It also triggers the VA responsibility to assist with development of the claim. The only military records you will need are proof of service and character of discharge. This information can be obtained even in cases involved in the 1973 fire. The VA will request this information for you. You will also need proof of relationship which should be easily obtained at the county or state level. Don’t allow the bad experience of others to deter you from visiting the VA. There are some good people there and they will assist you. I can’t emphasize enough the importance of getting you claim on record.
Ok thank you for the info. I wish we had time on our side. I will visit the VA in her town this week when I go back to visit.