They say don’t talk about politics to keep the peace but I feel certain values are a basic part in being a R or a D.
Myself I don’t have much in common with D’s and often can detect one after a short period of time.
I could never co habitate with one fer sure especially a rabid one like those that have reared their ugly heads this election cycle.
That is a big part of the equation for me also. I have some D aquaintences who have talked till their values are clear and these are NOT people I would trust to keep my kids. I could visit and enjoy them at the neighborhood block party, but the value system prevents my trust in them as "friends."
that is a trite explanation of my feelings on the R and D or conservative/liberal values. To me, those value systems ARE the division in the country.