I’ve worked to change my habits over the years to be a good wife. My husband heard me answer the phone at work recently and laughingly said,”why don’t you talk to me like that?”
Guess I need to work on having a sweeter, more gentle tone at home!
Other than that, I’m feeling pretty good-have to say that reading mens’ comments regarding wives/girlfriends over the years on FR have helped. They’ve given me insight into my husband’s perspective. So thank you guys!
I know what you mean about tone and it sounds like you’ve got good communication with your spouse.
Since I read my boss’s email at times for work, over the years I’ve come across a few emails from his wife to him. She’ll say something like, “Thank you so much for a wonderful weekend. I couldn’t ask for a better husband. I love you, etc” Really opened my eyes to how important it is to occasionally TELL your spouse that you appreciate them. And in writing is even better.
We talk to strangers more polite because we are not ourself. We have more at risk at home.
The problem is each spouse must grieve their past thoroughly to be a kinder gentler person. There is no free lunch. 2 people retain as much baggage as their ability to grieve and let go. An individual must be free first, and only then can the kinder gentler grow forth.