Posted on 01/06/2017 9:29:58 AM PST by rhett october
Its free (and legal i presume) at the link.
The surest way to make your wife want to **** your brains out?
Vacuum the house.
Do the dishes.
Just saying.
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An acquaintance of mine said once that her husband started doing the dishes for her one night.
She said it almost made her want to have sex with him.
Rough marriage.
It’s going to take more than that to mend that one although they are together because he adores her and puts up with her. Her attitude toward him, however........
Anyway, I have no doubt that you have hit on something many men need to hear.
Notice that it isn’t expensive (for those men who think it takes buying something)
A pastor explained "the difference" to me once upon a time.
A couple comes over for dinner. If somebody asks, "Where did you get this steak?" The guy will answer, "Costco." (For example.)
Ask the wife, and she'll say, "Why? Is there something wrong with it?"
You know why?
It tells her that you care about her as a person.
When that emotional need is met, the rest takes care of itself.
Yes. Ephesians is great for teaching about marriage.
Me? I know what it is like to be a bad wife and a good wife.
Repeating this part
Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their
own husbands in every thing.
That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot,
or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
After I got saved I learned I was a terrible wife, getting mad all the time and so forth.
What God taught me thru the Bible, Christian radio, speakers, sermons and books
(it was everywhere and so obvious God teaching me, it was amazing) was
I should act and respond to my husband the same way I do towards the church.
That my husband will present me to God, not having spot, or wrinkle,
or any such thing; but that I should be holy and without blemish.
That He might sanctify and cleanse me with the washing of water by the word.
Not many may agree but I think my husband is responsible for my behavior.
Therefore I need to behave in the best way possible. Just like we are responsible
for the way our children turn out. I want my husband to be able to stand before
God with a good wife by his side and well behave children.
I love him I just didn’t know how to be a good wife.
My mom seemed to be a good wife. I saw her be respectful to my dad most of the time.
She did stick up for herself a few times when she felt strongly about something.
How had I not learned it?
In the past a husband had ways to deal with a quarrelsome wife.
The bible in Proverbs says
21:9 Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.
25:24Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.
Yes, I found this one twice.
21:19 Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife.
27:15 A quarrelsome wife is like the dripping of a leaky roof in a rainstorm;
I could not believe I was a quarrelsome wife. It really threw me, but I was.
After lots of other teaching I started to treat him with the utmost respect.
I gave up wanting to control the cash and trusting God let him take care of it.
I completely trusted God to take care of everything.
If anything went wrong then it was God teaching him and me what we needed to learn.
One of the things I did before was get mad if my husband mad a mistake.
If I mad a mistake I was humane but if he did he was stupid and I was stupid to be married to him.
How is that fair?
I learned that my husband loves me and I needed to stop trying to have
this great relationship.
That was only pushing him farther away because I was driving him
crazy with all the questions about how he felt.
In trying to be closer I was pushing him away.
I learned that if my husband did not want to be with me and hang out with me then
that was my fault not his.
If I was not an enjoyable person to be around then how is that his fault?
I also learned that I am responsible for my happiness.
I could go on but now after 30 years, and we are both retired,
my husband loves to be with me. He even likes it when I go
to Home Depot with him.
What’s to fight about? He is the man in charge and I’m great with
that as long as he is happy.
Sorry this was so long.
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