You have absolutely no idea of my circumstances and my lifestyle or what he paid for or I paid for. You are out of line to make such an ignorant comment.
You seem to be defending that a father should go to the bar and drink instead of going to his child’s school activities. That is despicable.
I have worked full time for over 40 years now, and have NEVER had spending habits above reproach by anyone. When we split, the ex- was spending over $1,000 per month to finance his social and drinking life. Meanwhile, I scrimped in order to have money to buy new shoes for the kids when they needed them.
Don’t let these people get under your skin. I always find it fascinating to listen to their experiences. I must have been one dumb woman because I never saw one penny from my husband after he left me for a younger woman, she was 22 and I was 32. I raised our 4 children by myself, worked 40 to 60 hours a week , and sent them all to private school. We did without heat, food, and a car but we made it. Some of us women have known our share of hardship.