Be ready to be destroyed. My friend had three great kids after 13 years of marriage. His wife would not stop her spending which finally totaled $100,000 in credit card debt. SHE sued for divorce because he was being “mean” to her. He lost everything, and I mean everything. Not only does she get rich child support, he has to pay all her legal expenses ($45,000) plus 1/2 of the $100,000 debt she racked up. He gets to see his kids every other weekend. He now lives in an old walk-up. He’s broke. He can’t concentrate on his work and keeps changing jobs. The female judge gave her everything she wanted plus saddling him with her debt and all legal expenses. He has no money for an appeal. He never did anything to deserve this. Beware.
Oh, and my son ended up with full legal custody, and primary placement. That was 9 years ago, and my grandson is growing into an exceptional young man.
They both, however, made sure my grandson knew that whatever was going on, was between the two of them, and they both still loved him. It wasn't easy, but I think that helped him handle the divorce of his parents better than he might have otherwise.
Marriage is a civil contract. You’re forming a partnership. In a partnership, you’re on the hook for torts that your partner commits. I wish more people would get this concept.