The head of the women implies that he should be the example for her to look up to.
If the example doesn’t live up to the call, and the call is from God, it’s not the callers problem.
If the woman doesn’t follow the example - it’s her choice. But if the example is very compelling - daily and in real life. Why would not the earth orbit around the sun? It’s the path of least resistance.
In a healthy relationship, both are aware of sin and of God, and the woman won’t comply with sin, but will at least pro-forma honor her husband.
Maybe this is illustrated by the passage in which Nabal, the hot headed fool, refused to help the fleeing David and his men, who furiously vowed revenge, whereupon Abigail, his wise wife (whose name was adopted as a pen name in modern times by the once renowned advice columnist “Dear Abby”) offered an appeasement to David and his men. The result was peace and helping David’s mission, but Nabal blew his top and died when he learned about it.
The sun is a very furious celestial body. But by the time it reaches the earth, it can be quite pleasant and even a thing of beauty.
Ephesians 5:22, and Colossians 3:18 tell the wives that as they surrender to the Lord (in love for Him), they should surrender to their husbands. The implication is if wives don’t understand God’s love for them and don’t surrender to Him, they will have difficulty surrendering to their husbands. Such is the case in today in a society that began turning its back on God some 100 years ago or so.
1 Peter 3:1-6 also tells wives that they are to be in subjection to their husbands regardless of the husband’s example (v.1) and also tells wives of the great value and esteem God holds them for doing so (v.4).
How the woman & wife behaves is primarily between the woman and God, not between the woman and the man.