This article certainly misses the point.
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So sex in college now needs to be contractual. . .a contract needs to be signed in order for consensual sex to not be “rape” when the woman is drunk, as there is no consent when drunk, allegedly. . .
We have come full circle as there is indeed a contract for sex already in our society. It is called marriage.
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Part of it is the definition change. In the past the term “rape” had a well understood definition. I don’t think rape as it was always known has exploded.
What has exploded is the idea that if a girl feels guilty, or drank too much, or got broken up with, she was “raped”. There are numerous cases where the woman keeps voluntarily dating her rapist for weeks or months. What an insult to actual rape victims.
All I can say is that young men today should be exceedingly careful. Even then there are still no guarantees.
I recently read an article about the hookup site Tinder, and “Tinderellas” and how young man brag they just go from hookup to hookup every night throughout their 20s and 30s, with no interest in love or relationships or marriage.
And the women agree to this, one reason being because men aren’t willing to wait anymore; they don’t need to; and will just go on to the next “Tinderella,” and so the cycle perpetuates. Also there are “Tinder food stamps,” which is when a woman agrees to a night of hooking up in exchange for a meal and a drink.
This is so sad to me. Is this what is ahead for my 10 year old daughter, and my teenage sons?
And I can hardly blame the men either for being wary of marriage, as their wife can one day cheat on them, run off with the new guy, and take custody of his children and force him to pay 40% of his salary for child support and 20% or something for alimony.
This whole thing is so sad to me. And all due to a lack of morality. It is always best and so much sinpler to always do the right thing, and refrain from sin.
Then everyone wins. We’d have love, intact families, good sex lives, and a nicer society.
Colleges deliberately and intentionally set out to destroy the value system that the students learned from their parents and church. This is with full knowledge and intention. If they can get the new students to engage in any and all kinds of sex, they can be sure the students will throw away anything else they learned from their parents too. Colleges deliberately encourage students to drink alcohol to excess, knowing it will help them achieve their primary goal.
Someone needs to create the ‘consent’ app. It would make millions.
No no no has always meant yes yes yes.
Fascinating article! Thanks for posting. It is long and covers a lot of ground but it is well worth reading to the end.
I encourage anyone to click through to the full article and print it out and read the whole thing.
By the way I was talking about the underlying article in the Federalist, which is linked in the article but I’ll paste the link in here to avoid confusion:
http://thefederalist.com/2015/08/31/what-the-left-and-right-dont-get-about-campus-rape/
Very insightful thoughts from Ms. Charen, and the whole article is well worth reading.
Women are told that participating in a sex-obsessed culture with no ethical principle other than "consent" will make them happy. When they aren't happy, most don't reexamine the original premise. Instead, they reason that, since their sexual experiences are making them miserable, they must have been "nonconsensual."
It's not a "rape-culture," as Ms. Charen observes. It's a free-fornication pansexual mélange.
I think I’d about kick my sons behind if he was part of a frat that put up signs like that.
Yes, REAL MEN know better and treat women accordingly.