Somebody told me that a friend of theirs,adult son still lived with her. He is 30 something, has had no focus in life, has had odd jobs but never a career goal.
Well, this adult son got the shock of his life when his mother decided to sell the house and move to an apartment on her own!!!
So this adult son who had failed to launch had to scramble to find a place to.live......
Some young people might move back in with parents to save money and get established in life. But some young people take advantage of a situation and their parents generosity, and as a result never quite grow up.
The problem you are describing isn’t that the kids are living with their parents, it’s that their parents are not doing their jobs and are letting them sit idle.
An adult child living at home should be required to do their share. Heck a child of ANY age should have responsibilities that are age appropriate.
We recently gave our Petit Grand piano to our daughter and our grandsons. We had to ship it to NY, which was an experience in itself.
The piano movers told my daughter a funny story about an older lady in Milwaukee whose piano they’d moved the week before. She had 4 children who’d studied piano growing up and who were all living back home as adults. She announced that she was giving her grand piano to the first one who showed her a signed lease and moved out. The youngest quickly went out, rented an apartment, and returned with the lease. He got the piano. I guess the others are still in their childhood home.