You're a man after my own heart! Er . . . unless you're a woman. (And by the way, if you are, would you marry me?)
The South was for "states' rights" during the Washington and Adams administrations but when Jefferson was elected the two sides did a do-si-do and switched positions completely. New England Federalists, first the Essex Junto and then the Hartford Convention, advocated secession, and the Jeffersonian South called it "treason."
Why should my sex/gender make a difference in whether we get married?
You are obviously a homophobe.
I is quite male, and married almost 39 years.