Peers from minority (and even lower income white) households will shame and taunt their better performing friends as ‘TRYING to act white/preppie’ if they actually do well in school.
Anybody who tries to hold you back in life is not your friend.
I think the “acting white” or “acting preppie” argument is overblown on the right. It doesn’t happen nearly as often as some conservatives pretend. Especially with blacks. The only way they’re going to attack another black as being too white is if they come out of the closet as a conservative Republican.
I do agree though that anyone trying to hold you back isn’t really your friend. By logical conclusion, the government is not anyone’s friend.