In that American Revolution, only about 13% of the population actually fought against the British. A lot of them were outright British sympathizers.
There are so many differences between then and now comparisons are unrealistic. But for one, they had elected governments, and those elected governments were rebelling against the crown. That’s very different than rebelling against an elected government.
I once heard a quote from de Tocqueville where he noted that Americans were far more accepting of petty government intrusion in their daily life than Europeans because they viewed the government as representing them. They would, he predicted put up with impositions that if a king tried would result in revolution. Very prophetic.