Men bearing the costs of courtship is bunk.
Your average courting-age woman spends more on clothes and makeup and hair salons and nail salons, etc., etc.—let alone the time costs of putting it all together—than a man does in picking up a few checks.
So women only pretty themselves up when they are courting? I just spend $130 for a meal. So what, my salon visit cost $200 - you owe me an additional $70 before we proceed.
You think women would not by clothes and makeup if it wasn’t for courting?
I think women buy clothes and makeup to impress other women - not to so men will court them. If they wanted to buy things to encourage courting, it would be golf clubs.
Apples and Oranges.
I know a lot of women who spend a lot of money on cloths and hairdressers, etc. They are all married.
You are assuming that women only get dressed up to hook a man. The women I know would live in a shopping mall or beauty parlor if it were possible. They do it for themselves. They enjoy getting dressed up.
It’s unlikely that a woman buys a new outfit or get her hair done everytime she goes on a date, and she certainly doesn’t, as she becomes more serious about a guy and starts to feel less inclined to make an impression. However, on every date the guy pays for, he has to,put out new money as there is no way for him to recycle money as a woman might be able to re-use an outfit.
Over the long haul, in a traditional relationship, the guy probably does pay more.
Wrong, wrong, wrong.
All those things you mention; hair, make up, nails are used in the normal course of being a woman. When you go to work, wherever, you spend money to look good. This is a daily ritual for women. It has nothing to do with courtship or dating.
Only in the dating and courtship arenas does is the man supposed to pay the entire tab.
Admit it, you get off easy when it comes to the romance game. You just have to show up, sit there and receive the bennies.
They do have something in common, though. Guys do that for the benefit of the women.
When women do their nails, hair, clothes, etc...it's also for her benefit.
She would spend that anyhow
“Your average courting-age woman spends more on clothes and makeup and hair salons and nail salons, etc., etc.—let alone the time costs of putting it all together—than a man does in picking up a few checks.”
Costs born in this regard are costs that would have already be incurred REGARDLESS of courtship considerations.
My wife wouldn’t walk into Macy’s to return a dress without being showered, in makeup, and dressed in something other than sweats. She was that way before she knew me, and is that way today.
We are under NO illusion that the efforts a woman makes to look good is because of concern for her mate. Please.
If that were the case, there’d be a lot more women out there with long hair.