I would presume “Stop having sex with your husband” is the same as #2 - “Quit being his girlfriend”.
/I’m not cheated on, nor divorced, but I can certainly understand why it happens. My wife has decided that sex is not a priority, or in fact, going to happen at all. We’re early to mid 40’s, and frankly, working at a university makes the “whoa” factor difficult. I’ve asked her to see doctor(s), and even asked to set up counseling with one of our pastors, but so far, it’s not happened. My wife tells me “Love you”, or “Thanks Babe”, and all I feel is regret - if she’s going to talk like that - then act like it, too. Actions speak louder than words. It’s been almost a calendar year since we were last together, and is the chief reason why I started drinking so heavily, and so often. I’ve fixed that (quit drinking altogether), but this can’t go on.
I’m doing the praying thing, that’s for sure, asking God to fix me, or fix her - because life isn’t supposed to be like this. It’s supposed to be more abundant, exceedingly good.
I believe in the philosophy of "Ignore what she says, watch what she does".
My definition of "love", is "being willing to make an effort, or pay a price, in order to enhance the life of another". You can measure how much a person really loves you, by how much time and effort she's willing to expend on enhancing your happiness.
If you've made clear to her that sex is what makes you happy, and she's not interested, then that means she's not interested in making you happy.
I've had more than one friend whose wife lost interest in sex with him, only to discover that she was still interested in sex, just not with him.
My wife shuts me out
Unless she is sick
Then I’m not going to go without female intimacy forever
Discretion if one must
Same goes for gals