Why do men want to be dominated? I think there is a type of dynamic where some men want a “mommy” instead of a wife. They are comfortable in that role because they are used to it maybe. The answer is for men to start from a point of agreement in “real” equality which women SAY they want, but really have not been pressed on in things like registering with the government when you are 18 in case we need to call up a draft, divorce laws reformed to not favor women/mothers, “choice” rights for men who are prospective fathers. I really hope men will start asking for REAL fairness in the law. I think this is one of the Alinsky tactics...press them on their stated beliefs all the way. It is what the Left does to the Right on the morality issue, so uncovering “affairs” kicks out someone like Cain, but isn’t a deal-breaker for Bill Clinton.
I think this might have something to do with it.
If you are not in control, then you can think that you are not responsible. This avoidance of responsibility is what drives the desire for submission. Having to be responsible can be a scarey thing.
On another tack: The thing which feminists like to rage against, the “patriarchy”, may be the system which allowed modern technological civilization to form.
At its core, patriarchy is a system which motivates men to spend our lives building a civilization to pass along to our children. What motivates men to spend their lives working at tedious, strenuous, or hazardous occupations, to build themselves up to have a career, position and status? We do it in order to have a chance to achieve the love and admiration of a good woman, and to acquire children who we can be sure are ours, who we can take pride in providing for.
What happens when men are deprived of this motivating system? Just take a look at any “inner-city” neighborhood. The men there have no purpose. They do not strive, nor do they build nor create. They just play games and fight among themselves. This is the future the feminists will achieve for all of us if they succeed: a barbarism where civilization is a forgotten myth of the past.
At some point, take a look at the movie "Fight Club". This is a view of what happens when men get so alienated from the society that they lose interest in holding it up. The desire then becomes to just let it crash and burn, and dance wildly around the flames.