They’re not the same friend. Wouldn’t you like to have SOME chance of saving the America we know and love, rather than NO chance?
I went through the five stages of loss decades ago. Our culture has degraded to the point where there is NO chance of saving the America that you refer to. It is good to be old...but never fear, as long as I live I’ll always vote for strict-constructionist conservatives, knowing that their unlikely election will result in anarchy.