Once again, as Dr. Germain Grisez explains, while “Vatican II neatly formulates the prohibition against judging others: ‘God alone is the judge and searcher of hearts; for that reason he forbids us to make judgments about the internal guilt of anyone’..This norm..does not preclude judgments necessary for determining that one should try to dissuade others from committing sins or to encourage them to repent if they have sinned...the responsibility, stated precisely, is not to admonish sinners, but to admonish those who seem to be sinning. To evade this responsibility on the ground that one cannot fulfill it without being judgmental is to rationalize indifference and cowardice, rooted in the inadequacy of love of neighbor.” (Citing Gaudium et Spes, No. 28).
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Grisez is NOT saying that each of us has the moral obligation to ask the people we know --- or even people we hardly know --- what they're doing sexually.
I wouldn't ask heterosexual married couples in my acquaintance, for instance, if they use contraceptives. Even if they had only 3, 2, 1, or 0 kids after a decade or two of marriage. Would you?
And contraceptive acts, like homosexual acts, are disordered, in violation of Divine and Natural Law, and morally proscribed. And they are far, far more common than homosexual acts.
But if the person in question is not volunteering the information, I don't think it's proper for me to ask. Or worse, to simply assume they must be doing wicked acts x, y, and zm , and speculate about it in print to the general public.
How much are you obliged to find out about an acquaintance's sex life? How much unsolicited sexual advice are you supposed to offer them?
Wouldn't that be as offensive as saying "I think Kleghornboy and Kleghorngirl probably do thus-and-such morally deplorable things in bed?"
Everyone who reads my writings, for insteance, knows I'm opposed to contraception, sterilization, and abortion, as well as acts of a sexual nature between men and between women. I'm published about this subject. THE SAME, COME TO THINK OF IT, IS TRUE OF MARK SHEA.
Everyone knows where he stands on sexual right-and-wrong issues.
That doesn't mean he, or I, or any of us are entitled to stick our noses, unasked, into other people's private relations.