I tell young people these three things if they are contemplating marrying someone:
1. If you have no recollection of your fiance ever sincerely apologizing for anything, EVER - RUN, don’t walk from that person. They will blame you for everything that goes wrong in their life.
2. If you are marrying someone because you want them to make you happy and you believe they will, you will be sorely disappointed. If you are a woman you will probably divorce him. If you are a man, you will probably have an affair or three. Either way, you are going in for the completely wrong reason.
3. If you are marrying this person because you want to do everything you can to make them happy, you have a fighting chance, especially if they feel the same way.
I always liked ‘the door test’ from “A Bronx Tale”.